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Healing Relationships Through Forgiveness

by Raaj Nair, Certified Pranic Psychotherapist and Visiting Master at AyurMa


Most of my clients come to me for Pranic Healing or Pranic Psychotherapy. They are aiming to heal not only their personal issues, but also issues connected to loved ones, such as a relationship that didn’t work out, leaving a negative impact. This is where Pranic Psychotherapy, in particular, comes in.


In my last article, I wrote about Pranic Psychotherapy. Just as Pranic Healing helps physical ailments, Pranic Psychotherapy heals psychological ailments. Pranic Healing is very simply the healing of the energy body, which in turn affects the physical body and vice versa. In Pranic Healing, we deal with 11 major chakras, the energy centres of the energy body, which each have physiological, psychological and spiritual functions. The energy and physical bodies are very closely related to, and affect, each other.



by Raaj Nair, Certified Pranic Psychotherapist and Visiting Master at AyurMa
Image credits: Four Seasons Resort The Nam Hai

The teaching of Pranic Healing and Pranic Psychotherapy originates with the founder of Modern Pranic Healing, and Arhatic Yoga Grand Master, Choa Kok Sui. The Grand Master, of Filipino Chinese descent and one of the foremost energy healing masters, has devoted many years of study and experimentation to prana or life force energy. He has looked especially at how it can be used to heal physical and psychological ailments.


How Relationships Are Affected through Life Force Energy


Every one of us an energy body, with energy centres that in turn have physiological, psychological and spiritual functions. These centres affect our physical body, and vice versa. Unless we live the life of a hermit, we are connected to others – and their energy bodies - in relationships from the minute we are born, be it our parents, siblings, friends, school mates, co-workers, life partners, and anyone else with whom we come in to contact with, no matter how short the period.


Now most of us, myself included, tend to carry energies of stress, anxiety and worry at some point. These feelings can usually be detected via our chakral conditions with the evidence found in our solar plexus chakra, the centre of lower emotion located at the diaphragm and behind it. The chakra at the base of the spine is responsible for our dynamic activities, the heart chakra responsible for higher emotions of love and peace, with the ajna or master chakra, found in the centre in between the eyebrows, the directing centre.


Through the regular use of Pranic Psychotherapy, one reduces stress, which in turn helps to avoid or remove possible exchanges of negative thoughts and emotions. It can even help prevent the breakdown of marriages, especially since it stops us using another as a ‘psychic garbage can’.


Even when a person shows no external signs of stress, Pranic Psychotherapy helps to promote feelings of inner peace between them and their partner, increasing appreciation of each other and enhancing the relationship.


Pranic Psychotherapy can also support temperamental children or aid when important decisions need to be made.



The Power of Forgiveness


Our human brains produce 70,000 thoughts in a day, and naturally those thoughts can be both positive and negative. Constantly thinking negative thoughts can result in ailments, such as blood pressure issues, migraines and even sciatica, just to name a few examples.


Deep-seated hurt or resentment towards a person can cause the ailment to be severe. Though Pranic Healing and Pranic Psychotherapy can greatly improve the condition of the patient, the rate of healing is much faster if the patient practices meditation, such as the Grand Master’s Meditation on Twin Hearts, and forgiveness.


Offering forgiveness is both therapeutic and brings with it better health.


The act of forgiveness has a very strong impact on the solar plexus, heart and ajna chakras, which in turn affect the base chakra, thus very much helping a person to lead not just a physically healthy life but a psychologically healthy one.



Image credits: Four Seasons Resort The Nam Hai
Visiting Master Raaj Nair returns to Four Seasons Resort Maldives at Landaa Giraavaru

Try these simple forgiveness practices


Now I will share with you two methods of practising forgiveness suggested by the Grand Master that I use with my clients. One is to visualise the person who hurt you sitting in front of you. Raise your hands to a blessing position at chest level. The first step involves you giving forgiveness, and the second involves you asking for forgiveness.


To give forgiveness, you say:


Atma (insert the name of the person) Namaste.


I forgive you for the hurt, injury and pain you have caused me.


May the Supreme Being bless you with divine forgiveness and healing.


May peace be between you and me.


And to ask for forgiveness, you say:


Atma (insert the name of the person) Namaste.


I am truly sorry for the hurt, injury and pain I have caused you.


May the Supreme Being bless me with divine forgiveness and healing.


May peace be between you and me.



We ask for forgiveness even if we think that we have not done anything wrong to that person simply because it is in giving that we receive.


The second and one of my preferred methods taught by the Grand Master, and which I do especially with clients who have issues expressing themselves, is to write letters addressed to the person or people who hurt them. These letters are not sent, but merely burnt, with the ashes scattered or flushed down a toilet. The act of writing and scattering simply externalises and releases energies so that we do not carry them with us, lingering in our energy centres and meridians.


This may be supported further by changing one’s attitude towards others, oneself and life in general, from being:


1) hateful to being sweet and loving;


2) greedy and selfish to more sensitive and giving; and


3) pessimistic and depressed to happy and hopeful.



Doing the Meditation on Twin Hearts regularly also helps to heal relationships by blessing the other person, and activating our heart and crown energy centres, both connected to the higher emotions of love.


Love, finally, is the key to enhance any relationship.




Visiting Master Raaj Nair returns to Four Seasons Resort Maldives at Landaa Giraavaru from December 15, 2023 to January 14, 2024. To view his bio or explore his services, click here.

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